Tempe Nazarene Church
March 18, 2007
Pastor Brian Delbridge


“Love Doesn’t Always Win”

Encounters With Christ Series
Luke 15:11–32

  1. Introduction
    1. Love always wins” is a life truism.
    2. (Luke 15:11–24)
      11 Jesus continued: “There was a man who had two sons.
      12 The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them.
      13 Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living.
      14 After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need.
      15 So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs.
      16 He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.
      17 When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death!
      18 I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.
      19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.’
      20 So he got up and went to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.
      21 The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’
      22 But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.
      23 Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate.
      24 For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.”

    3. The truth is, love always wins only sometimes.
    4. (Luke 16:25–32)
      25 “Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing.
      26 So he called one of the servants and asked him what was going on.
      27 ‘Your brother has come,’ he replied, ‘and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.’
      28 The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him.
      29 But he answered his father, ‘Look! All these years I’ve been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends.
      30 But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’
      31 ‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours.
      32 But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’”

  2. The Father’s Two Sons
    1. The father loved extravagantly like God.
    2. People respond to love differently.
      1. Some love
      2. Some become spoiled
      3. Some become demanding
      4. Some exploit it
    3. Love is risky
      1. The outcome of love depends on the response of the loved.
    4. Both sons were self-centered.
  3. The Father
    1. The father represents God in this parable.
    2. Love is a gamble, but it is the way God has chosen to relate to us!
    3. We can operate by threats and force but that is only temporarily effective.
      1. Because it violates the nature of relationship
    4. Love depends on gentle, un-controlling methods.
    5. (1st Corinthians 13:4–8)
      4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
      5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
      6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
      7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
      8 Love never fails.

    6. Love’s biggest recommendation is it is the method God has chosen to use.
  4. Guidelines for Love
    1. Wait
    2. Keep on loving.
      1. Love doesn’t have to win, it is right.
    3. Let God determine the outcome of love.
    4. Love God anyway.
  5. Conclusion